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A New Year

Foster, foster care, gratitude, Jonah, Katie, marriage, memories, Parker, Theodore January 5, 2021 Leave a comment

As a whole, humanity seems extremely happy to put the year 2020 behind them and move into 2021.

Personally, I feel the same! Some really great things happened in 2020 but the high amount of stress and anxiety has overshadowed it all.

I began walking for exercise in 2020. When our first required quarantine began in March, I decided to try and start walking for exercise and it turned out it was more needed for mental health than anything else!

I had some very consistent walking months, started gaining strength and losing weight. Then we got a call from DCS and our year turned from confusing and stressful to a chaotic mess.

Our little Chatterbox showed up from being up all night in the ER and DCS office. She had on some clothes that the DCS office had on hand that were too large and the wrong season. She slept for hours on our couch where the DCS worker laid her.

I didn’t have anything for her. DCS had sent a bag of random items that a local church or non-profit had made into an essentials bag. Unfortunately, there were no clothes, no pajamas included.

I had been planning to go with some friends to lunch and shopping that day. Instead, they went without me and did some shopping for me since I didn’t have another adult here to stay home with Chatterbox.

Another positive of 2020, has been seeing how people are willing to love on Chatterbox (and us by extension). They’ve sent her clothes, gifts and brought us meals during some rough patches. If it wasn’t for Covid, I’m sure I could have called on them to babysit.

My kids continued to meet milestones!

Foster was able to get his license and become the proud owner of his first car.

Katie started high school and participated as a member of the local public high school cross country team.

Theodore broke his arm and showed just how tough and resilient he really is. He was cracking jokes almost immediately.

Parker has bonded with Chatterbox and will do anything to help her laugh and feel better. His soft heart is evident.

Jonah has shown that ART is life. He’s creating from the moment he wakes up until the very last moment his eyes are open. He received 7 blank sketchbooks for Christmas and he couldn’t have been more excited.

If I had to pinpoint one thing, though, the most positive from 2020 would be how much closer Chris and I have become as a couple. And how much stronger our marriage is. The stretches of time he’s had at home have been beneficial for all of us. I’m very grateful to be married to my best friend. Yesterday was the 20th anniversary of our first date. I’m so thankful for the past 20 years and plan to savor the next 40+ together.

Christmas 2019

daddy, Family, Foster, gratitude, holiday, Jonah, Katie, Lego, memories, Parker, Theodore, Uncle Anthony January 3, 2020 Leave a comment

Christmas break has been just the right amount of slow with small spurts of busyness. It’s been full of sweet surprises and moments and laughter. I am so thankful that God has blessed me with this family of mine!

Thanksgiving 2019

Family, Foster, gratitude, holiday, Jonah, Katie, memories, Parker, Theodore January 1, 2020 Leave a comment

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Ms. Debbie’s daughters (Becky and Amy), Bethany’s family and my family attempted to get a quick photo shoot in for a surprise Christmas gift for Debbie and Al of all 10 grandkids. We had to pull it off quickly on Thanksgiving day because some of the family members were in from out of town, the weather was chilly and there were 2 four-month-old babies involved.

I’m glad we took the time and money to do this and look forward to ten years from now when we can re-create it (possibly with some great-grandkids!).

Then once we yelled at our kids to smile and stop squinting and “act like you like each other” for a few minutes, we headed to Aunt Diane’s and Uncle Walt’s for Thanksgiving dinner and time with family.

I didn’t take any food pictures or family pictures that day, but I should have! Aunt Lele and Uncle Mark and Cousin Megan, Jordan and little, sweet Rylan were in from out of town. We don’t get to spend nearly enough time with them since they moved to Nashville several years ago.

I am so thankful to Aunt Diane and Uncle Walt for always opening up their home. The Grubb family traditions are my favorite parts of the holidays.

Foster turns 14…and 15

birthdays, children, Family, Foster, growing-up, memories, teenagers November 9, 2019 Leave a comment

Time to catch up on 2 years of blog posts. It’s been a crazy couple of years. And now we’re less than 6 months away from our oldest’s 16th birthday.

15th…

14th…

Lego Fun

children, Foster, growing-up, Katie, Lego, memories, Parker, siblings, Theodore November 9, 2019 Leave a comment

Juvenile Hunt 2016

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Homeschool Year 10 – A Day in the Life

blessings, children, choices, faith, Foster, God's goodness, gratitude, homeschooling, Jonah, Katie, memories, Monday Memory, motherhood, parenting, Parker, priorities, siblings, teenagers, Theodore July 30, 2018 Leave a comment

I have an app on my phone that causes me to have the competing emotions of happiness and sadness daily. You may have heard of Timehop? After beginning our tenth homeschool year last week, a few pictures from 7 years ago came across my screen. 2011. Foster was in 2nd grade, Katie in 1st grade, Theodore was almost 4, Parker had just turned 2 and I was 7 months pregnant with Jonah.

I think there were about 6 pictures but I found myself analyzing everything. The place we lived at the time, the school books they were working in or toys they were playing with. It was a homeschool day-in-the-life but I wanted more! I wish I’d taken a picture of myself with my ginormous belly. I barely remember those days. I remember them but I can’t transport myself back to feeling the same, when I only had one child who was beginning to read and still had someone in diapers. When I had fatigue and hormones and very little patience. When we were still adjusting to the loss of Chris’s mom and the fact that his dad was about to remarry. When Chris was new to his job at the airport and our purse strings were pulled extremely tight. Scraping by to feed and clothe and house a family of 6 (almost 7).

It’s the looking back that affirms our choices. We can ponder and speculate all day long the “what-if’s” of life and try to feel confident in what the future will hold, but the looking back reassures me that while at the time it felt too difficult to be good, that God did honor our choices and is continuing to care for us and give us an abundant life. If someone had said to that tired, overwhelmed, burned out, struggling momma that she’d be mentally and emotionally strong enough to become a foster mom, I’m sure she would have said you were crazy. Or that she’d have the courage to homeschool her children through high school! At that time I was still trying to figure out how to get someone from reading c.a.t. to reading chapter books. Oh the stress!

Today I stalked my children and took some day-in-the-life photos. In another 7 years, I’ll be able to look back and praise God for what He was doing, what He was teaching all of us on those days.

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Foster turns 13

children, Foster, memories, teenagers August 26, 2017 Leave a comment

So. My oldest child is now a teenager (as of this past Valentine’s Day). I thought it was sad when I weaned him, when he went on his first overnight away from me, when he started going hunting with daddy and leaving for days. Or when he turned 5, oh my goodness. Well, apparently 13 is like that. When you sort through and scan in old baby pictures and you cry for a week. I’m not sad that he’s 13, I actually love teenagers and all the drama that can bring. The rollercoaster of mature young man to petulant child to coasting into relaxed adolescent is a fierce one that speeds along every day.

The tears come from being so proud. And so in love. I cannot fathom how I can love him more now than I did as a precious newborn. How can I love him more now than I did when he looked up at me with those sweet, hazel eyes and beautiful eye lashes and sucked his thumb and told me “I wuv you mommy”? How does that happen? I’m so thankful for Foster Owen Grubb. If I tried to list all the reasons why, this blog post would never end. Love is like that. And love for a child? Even more so.

My prayers and goals now that we have a teenager in the house? That as parents we will know how to be a friend to our son and be his authority at the same time. That we will not only command his respect, but earn it. That our transparency will encourage his. That we will be so authentic that he will know that we mean what we say and say what we mean in all areas of our lives. Because if there is one thing teenagers are good at, it’s spotting BS from a mile away.

Cross Country 2016

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TBT: Ghetto Pool

blessings, children, daddy, Foster, GSMNP, Katie, memories, parenting, Parker, siblings, Summer, Theodore, Throwback Thursday May 5, 2016 Leave a comment

This throw-back Thursday is dedicated to the ghetto pool and the years where we were basically drowning in littles. Good thing we have some pictures because it’s pretty much a blur.